Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Edge of Reason and Beyond

This year's New Year's Eve was so low key and mellow from last year's madness at Times Square, i had to pinch myself a couple times. ouch! like that only :)
A couple of my friends - and i literally mean, a "couple" - had a house party to break in the new year and their new apt. I love house parties but when there are too many married couples in the mix, i start having my Bridget Jones moments. There were around 14-16 people and i was probably one of 3 or 4 single people in the crowd. At first, it really didn't matter because everyone chatted each other up and stuff. Then my wise-cracking friend (and party host) inevitably starts poking fun at his wife and she gives it back, and the whole "My Spouse is Crazier Than Yours" routine gets the room rolling in laughter. However, for us singletons it starts to become a bit annoying after sometime. Alright, we get it. You married folks are besotted, especially when you tease one another in your marital bliss.
We also played a round of "Taboo" which was good fun but... and you know there's a huge BUT... it was so remniscent of the whole "When Harry Met Sally" thing when couples in their sacchirine sweetness are always fighting over points to keep score. aaargh. No couple envy, just that the last time i played board games on NYE was ages back with my family i think!!
And finally, I know we all get a bit senti as the clock strikes 12 and the new year dawns (help! i'm on a metaphor roll here) but after all the hugs and kisses got over, we singles were the only ones on the dance floor. I'm sure not all married folks are like that or perhaps some of them didn't dig the music but that night it gave you people in coupledom quite a bad rap. C'mon you guys, i shudder to think what'll happen when you have kids!! Don't tell me...

13 comments:

Kanika said...

and once we have kids we just sit around and watch them all day... and actually enjoy watching them drool all over the remote control and the phones!!

Paddu said...

So I went to a similar party with two other single friends in the Boston area suburbs where there were only married couples and their kids. Lucky we managed to escape in 45 minutes - I would not have been able to take much more of "how schwweet you baby is" for much longer! Luckily we ended up at a much better party full of singletons overlooking the Boston skyline with fireworks in front of us...way better!

Alpana said...

Good one. What's "Taboo"? married couples are boring and very immersed in themselves. best to avoid them.

Kanika said...

and yet you'd love to join our ranks... face it, we're EVERYWHERE!!

shilpa said...

kanika: i remember a time when u used to say "i love kids. other people's kids." haha.. those days are clearly gone!! but disagree that all singles want to get married. everyone loves the idea of getting hitched but not everyone does it due to whatever reason.
paddu: the fireworks sounds so much fun!! never seen em in beantown.
alpana: Taboo is a board game, now google the rest of the info :D
can't avoid the married folks, they always keep tempting me with nice dinners. plus it's fun to play referee when they start figting... hehe

Payal said...

Call it old age, but can't stand the thought of spending new year's eve with people! ;-)

Twisted DNA said...

"nevitably starts poking fun at his wife and she gives it back"
You know, I never realized it could be bothering the singles! I will have to watch out for them. May be I should start poking fun at the singles ;)

"i shudder to think what'll happen when you have kids"
Oh, we just get up at 10pm in the middle of an exciting charades game and say, "oh we got to go, the kid's too sleepy." :D

Shilpa said...

payal: you, too??! hey, if i had a nice glass of wine and a sig. other curled up next to me, maybe i would have similar thoughts. BIG maybe :D
twisted: first of all, good to have you back!! and secondly, i never said it bothered the singles... only if the banter goes on for a really, really long time and makes the singles feel left out. and go ahead, make my day ;)

Meeta said...

hehhehheh..(read: evil chuckle). Another "clash of civilizations", eh? Aren't there any normal married couples (with or without baby)left out there who still like to party with friends irrespective of marital status and/or are perfectly happy to let baby snooze/dribble/coo in some happy lap (theirs or some nice single but doting aunty/uncle too) while they can mingle and make merry?:D But honestly these binaries can be such a bore...

Meeta said...

And by the way, despite your careful qualification about "coupledom" we merry, pub hopping, disco dancing, scintillating conversation makers who also happen to be married resent your jibes at coupledom. How is poking fun at spouses different from poking fun at friends -I thought Kanika, you and me did that all the time? Next time you feel left out, call one of us?:)Go for it, twisted dna!!:)

And Paddu - if/when you get married and have kids, you will be solely responsible for throwing the wildest parties every weekend with loud music, drunk singles and of course, fireworks. And I'll bring my not so cute baby who will hopefully dribble on your phone for some variety:D
Happy new year folks!

shilpa said...

m - i can take a hint. yes i will babysit for you and karthik. now go write your dissertation first!!

Rohini said...

Er...I'd like to be able to say we're as fun as we used to be but I would be lying...

Seriously though, I have the opposite crib - I feel that my single and married-but-no-kids friends don't understand my changed life and constraints any more. I feel a distance between us that I hope will ease over time or when they hop onto the parenthood wagon themselves

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